As of August 7, 2012, I am starting a project.
Black Roses: The Digital Movement
Because women have got to learn how to respect and cherish their bodies.
by Shila Iris (aka Queen Duafe)
This is a movement to encourage women to love themselves by dressing with respect to their bodies and true identities.
Last week I was at work and a young lady entered wearing leggings and a camisole. She is 3 months pregnant. Her underwear were visible and her stomach hung over the leggings. It was actually quite offensive and no one knew she was pregnant. I know because I see her a lot. A camisole is an undershirt and it would be wise to wear a bra underneath it and a shirt on top of it. She had neither. Leggings are in the tights family and should be worn under long dresses or tunics. Both camisoles and leggings are used in exercise. They become very questionable when worn as outfits.
These things should not happen. We all have to learn that showing your body to the world is not the way to go!
She looked horrible. Of course people gawked at her in disbelief, but a lot of us accept this as the norm.
A pregnant woman should be loved and respected.
The child inside of her should be nurtured and respected.
Her body should be covered and worshiped privately.
I am so fed up with seeing women on display all the time.
I am not against tight clothes although they are not the best looking clothes if you ask me. This is because they have the tendency to show too much and most of the time they are tasteless attempts to showcase a body. Women with self-esteem know better.
From experience I can say, I am treated like the Queen that I am when I dress in clothes that are my correct size. Every now and again I may wear something fitting, Some men cannot handle this and I cannot handle the attention and the negative, predatory energy. I have learned how to dress things down because even though I am not trying to send a message, some men just take it that way. The type of men I don’t want around me.
But it’s not all about men. It’s really about YOU. Why do you think it is so necessary to show every crack and curve on your body? Do you really need that much attention, girlfriend? You know you’ll get it because lots of people don’t care, all they want is to connect with the flesh- never the mind, heart, spirit or soul. They just want to touch you. You let them impregnate you with bad energy, thoughts, and babies, and then starts the lifelong journey filled with drama and pain.
I am tired of us being afraid to say something about inappropriately dressed females. It has become the norm to see women’s bodies on display like horses. Zebra stripes painted on asses, we are not animals! That is something to be kept private, but I am seeing it everywhere.
Please comment and share this link and picture with your friends and community. We have to stop encouraging our QUEENS to leave the house naked. We want to love and respect all women, but we cannot do that when we see your body on display. It ain’t cool and it ain’t cute- I don’t care what the music video told you. It is a time and place for everything. STOP PUTTING YOUR BODY IN THE STREETS! YOU ARE NOT A WHORE! YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT.
Post your pictures, showing how you can dress beautiful without being on display. Even if you show a little skin, there has to be a boundary.
Love Yourself Every Day!
Queen Duafe for African Essence & shilairis.wordpress.com